Regulating Emotional Metabolism

Yesterday was a sad day for me. I had to say goodbye to my beloved grandmother. Although we knew her time was near, it’s still some what of a shock to hear the passing of a family member. As a mother, my first thought was I need to be strong for my boys. I need to push some of these emotions down for a later time so they couldn’t see their mom sad or hurting. At 10, 8, and & 7 years old, they don’t quite fully understand death and I didn’t want them to worry about me. As sad as I was, I would go about my day. There was housework to do, kids to pick up, homework, and soccer practices.

But then I realized I needed time to mourn. To do absolutely nothing but feel the pain. I needed to digest my emotions. Part of what I do is teaching people about our “Emotional Metabolism “and how we need to start listening to our emotions and digesting them so that they don’t become stuck in our body. For some, digesting and assimilating their emotions is easier than others. We digest and assimilate  almost everything we come in contact with. The air we breathe, the food we eat, our environmental surroundings, but we often don’t give ourselves permission to truly feel and digest all our emotions. Often life gets in the way and its easy to push our feelings aside or bury them deep down.

I gave myself permission to take a day. To mourn the loss of my Grandmother. To feel the pain. To cry and let it all out ,to let my body digest what it was feeling. And to not be afraid to let my children see that mommy was sad and heart broken. Death is part of life and we can’t avoid it. I want them to see that when you feel something you need to allow yourself to fully experience that emotion. To relax into the uncomfortableness of it all, so you can heal. I was never one to tell my children to “Stop crying”. I thought that was another way of saying , “Stop feeling”. It’s important for us to be present with our bodies to feel all of the emotions whether it be anger, depression, anxiety, sadness, jealousy or disappointment. When we do this we regulate our emotional metabolism which is just as important as the physical one, If not more. By regulating our emotional metabolism, we fully embody and become present and only then will we understand the message that can accompany our emotions. Had I gone on about my day and tried to hide those emotions they could’ve become stuck inside me to later create emotional chaos.

So I gave myself permission to relax into my sadness and let my body experience what it needed to. It wasn’t easy. I was quiet, and lots of tears were shed. Had I just told myself  she’s in a better place and did my best to go on with my day I don’t think I’d be feeling as I do today. And the same goes for my boys. Seeing me experience my emotions brought up great conversation and a great learning opportunity for one of life’s lessons.

We’re human and we have a range of emotions that we are constantly metabolizing.  We are biologically built to become present to the regulation and experience of our own feelings. For when we don’t they can take over causing many unwanted health symptoms.

LOts of LOve,

Lauren

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The Missing Link in Nutrition

As a Holistic Nutrition Coach I always felt there was something missing in my approach to helping people. For some people there were a few nutritional tweaks but for others it wasn’t so easy. Although I had great results, it seemed so superficial at times. Deep down I felt there was more to health than what we put in our bodies.  Believe me, I am extremely passionate about what we put in our bodies, but my gut was telling me there is more to the story of good health.

It wasn’t long after that I discovered the psychology of eating and became a Certified Eating Psychology Coach. This was the game changer. This was the answer I’ve been searching for!

Eating psychology helped me connect with my clients on a deeper level. Many health issues like depression, anxiety, fatigue and digestive issues, weight gain or inability to lose weight are not always directly related to diet. What’s going on emotionally is equally important. Helping people find much needed pleasure, happiness in life is one of the best things about my job. That alone can alleviate unwanted symptoms, and combined with a healthy diet and lifestyle, It’s complete nourishment.

But the ultimate reward is guiding those to their purpose in life, and teaching them how to love and except the beautiful being they are. With this happiness follows, and the body goes into a relaxation response. When we are in a relaxation response we heal emotionally and physically.  To see the personal transformation one makes in my office is so rewarding! I get to witness some beautiful journeys. Finding your passion or calling in this world can have profound affects on your health. This is my purpose on earth and with the exception of my children, fills my soul like nothing else. Although improving one’s health through various holistic and nutritional approaches is something I am passionate about, Eating Psychology is the icing on the cake!

Bringing mind, body and soul together through physical and emotional nutritional strategies, is a cutting edge approach to health.  It’s the missing link in nutrition. So if your having unwanted symptoms and your feeling confused because you feel your doing it all right, maybe its time to take a deeper look into where life is calling you. What’s life asking of you? How and why is your body getting your attention?

As important as these can be, there is more to life than being “Vegan” or “Gluten Free”.  At least I’d like to think so.

LOts of LOve,

Lauren

SOUL LESSONS

Every day is a learning experience. We’re learning new technology or new information, new love, through pain and suffering, relationships, kids, all of life’s little lessons.  But I feel it’s the Soul Lessons in life we must pay more attention to.

When we forget how to learn what life has to teach us, we resist life. We “check out”. This leads to unwanted symptoms, habits, behavior and disease.

Some of the most important lessons in life are Soul Lessons. Soul lessons are not often a place we go to find what life’s message is teaching us. When we don’t look deeper into our lives and see that we are not just a biological accident, it limits us! When we think about the soul in a divine way and when we think about where we came from, our challenges, our birth, our family we are born into, health issues, and how our soul is is truly a part of all of this, its pretty clear there is a higher purpose to our existence.  If there’s is not, why are we here on planet Earth? It’s so easy to become depressed, unhappy, stay sick, fatigued, and feel stuck in life when you are not connected to your soul being.  Life is always teaching us powerful soul lessons and through symptoms our body is getting our attention. We just need to listen!  Here are some POWERFUL, short but sweet, Soul Lessons to listen to.

– Agreeing To Be Here

Are you present in life? When we “check out” of life we lose personal power. This leads to long term depression, unhappiness, binge eating, weight gain, digestive issues and more. So many people are walking around this world not present. Their just living the day to day grind. Agreeing to be here is the first step toward personal empowerment. When we lose personal power, we lose metabolic power.

– Forgiveness

Un-forgiveness can lead to anger, resentment, rage, disappointment, blame and a deeper sadness. These emotions stuck in the body will create a psychological stress response. This chronic low level stress will cause the body to increase insulin, increase cortisol, gain weight, have trouble sleeping, and poor digestion and more.

Slowing Down

Slowing down is finding our natural pace. It’s trusting in life, relaxing into the unknown, listening and noticing. We live in an era of there’s “Not enough time” or ” If there were just a few more hours in the day”. Our world is fast paced.  This leads to stress which again leads to excess cortisol. Excess cortisol levels affect the clock in our brain and nervous system and it will speed up time. The more we put our bodies in survival mode, the faster we move and more the wisdom of life speaks to us through symptoms.

Reclaiming The Divine Feminine.

Society has defined feminine as skinny and pretty. This makes girls/women feel limited and they contract.  It doesn’t give women the opportunity to be seen as who they really are and they begin to lose their identity and have lower self esteem which can lead to eating disorders. Reclaiming The Divine Feminine means finding harmony, beauty in all things, love, cooperation, care for the world, a natural connectedness to our body wisdom and emotions, nourishing the body, sensuality, softness and rhythm.  The divine Feminine means relax, open and surrender.

– Reclaiming The Divine Masculine.

Reclaiming the divine masculine means allowing men to find their true purpose, explore their freedom, feel the rage, find the feminine side and discover their masculine heart. Men need a purpose in life in order to live a whole life. This sometimes is one of man’s biggest challenges. Health suffers when a man is not in alignment with the truth of who he is, and symptoms can arise including weight gain.

Embracing A Positive Spirituality

A negative, punishing, or fearful spiritual or religious belief system can easily generate chronic low level stress. It leads to shame and guilt which leads to self abuse, negative habits, and even negative thoughts around food, and body. Is your religion or non-religion affecting you? Creating a positive spirituality can have profound healing on the soul.

Speaking The Truth

Speaking the truth sets us free. It gives us authenticity. Energy can be increased and weight lifted off your shoulders when we do. When we are not speaking the truth love doesn’t flow and we contract.

Healing Our Sexuality

Who are we as sexual beings? And why is there so much shame around the subject of sex, so much fear and uncomfortableness? We are built for sex. It is biologically necessary. When sexual energy flows metabolism increases. Pleasure heals us. Our connection with food and body is very similar to our connection to sexuality.

Claiming Our Power

What are we here to do? What are we here to experience? What do we have to give as our gift ? What can we create, receive, express? What’s the higher purpose to our life? Sometimes we’re not supposed to fix our symptoms but to be aware of them, digest them and discover our power, our gift. From there are symptoms tend to relax. The more we reclaim and inherit our gifts and personal power, the more we embody. Full embodiment is full metabolism. It increases the relaxation response and that is where real healing begins. Look away from your weaknesses and toward your strengths.

Soul lessons are asking us to heal on a much deeper level. They have a powerful and direct connection with our issues around food and unwanted health symptoms. When we slow down and listen to life’s lessons we become more aware of what it is teaching us. We grow. We heal spiritually and biologically.

“When we evolve spiritually, we evolve metabolically.” – Marc David

What Soul Lessons is life teaching you right now?

LOts of LOVe,

Lauren

Renew, Rejuvenate, Restore

Fall is around the corner and every year at this time I feel the need to “Cleanse”. The cool crisp air in the mornings,  all the pretty foliage, new school year for the kids, it’s time for this Mama to recharge. Yes, I actually get excited about it! It’s a time for change and change is good.

For some its the springtime that entices them to cleanse and detoxify but for me, there is something about the Fall. Fall is the time for natural transition. Its about awareness, slowing down and restoring the body.  Its a great time to eat warmer foods that nurture the body and comfort the soul. Also with the cold and flu season approaching its a good way to boost your immune system.

This day in age cleansing is vital to our health.  With all the toxins and stimulants in our food, environment, cosmetics, personal care, cleaning products, medications, etc, our bodies are overloaded and have a difficult time ridding all this junk.  Too many toxins in the body can lead to excess weight, low energy, trouble sleeping, stress,  headaches, adrenal fatigue, aches and pains and low immunity and other health issues.  A cleanse allows the body to detox and renew on a cellular level. It’s like pushing the reset button.

Emotional release is also another benefit to cleansing. Emotions like anger, sadness, anxiety, and depression can arise during this time causing you to address the root cause.  When emotions are stored in the body it can creates physical symptoms and toxic energy. This allows your energy to flow more freely. Most people tend to feel happier, less stressed and free spirited after.

Cleansing aids in a stronger physical and emotional metabolism, self awareness, increased energy, healthier eating habits, glowing skin, and a healthier rejuvenated you! Whats not to love?

If your are looking for a good cleanse or curious about the one I will be doing, feel free to contact me. 

I’m looking forward to hitting the reset button. Join me on my journey….

LOts of LOve,

Lauren

Food Cravings, a deeper meaning behind them

Quite often I hear, “If I could stop craving sugar I’d be fine” or “Its the carbs that get me” and “Once I start eating the sweets, I can’t stop”.  We’ve all had cravings from time to time and for some more often than others. We know that diet can play a big role in food cravings. But did you know there is a deeper meaning to why one craves certain foods? Our bodies have a unique and powerful wisdom and it’s time we start listening.

Here is a great article about food cravings and what they can teach you.

http://psychologyofeating.com/3-types-of-cravings/

LOts of LOve,

Lauren